THE MYSTERY OF LOVE

in Articles By Mccuon on 22 Feb 2026

Love sits again and again at the round table of many human conversations, yet we keep circling the truth like detectives afraid their hunch is right. Love is that persistent mystery that stubbornly refuses to be solved-not because it cannot be, but because we continually turn a blind eye to the facts laid bare before us.

Maybe, we simply are not ready to embrace the truth yet.

We talk about love as a casual event, a spark between two fated human beings, flapping butterflies, frequent visits to the world of fantasy and a sprinkle of delusion. I mean, being delulu is the solulu, right?

For us love is marked by fresh aromatic flowers, expensive gift bags, fancy restaurant dates that leave us with bills that hurt more than the breakup, weekly almost daily social media posts, holding hands in public, you name it. Everything except what love truly is.

But I believe there is a Book, as I like to call it, the Basic Instructions to Best Love Eternally, the Bible.

Here is what Love tells us about love. Yes, Love, because God is love.

If God had waited for love to “just happen,” or paused until He found something in us worth loving, would love toward us ever have materialized at all? Left to our own devices, we rarely present a compelling case, often drifting, dodging, and falling short of the very good we’re called to embody. Yet He chose intentionally, unwaveringly, He chose to love us. And that decision speaks volumes.

Love is a choice.

Boring, right? We want slow, romantic background music as our paths cross dramatically.

But that’s exactly where we miss the mark. Love is not a k-drama scene.

We have to make the choice to love someone; whether our partners, friends, or even family. We may like them, yes, but love? Love is an intentional decision. And one thing about such decisions: we make them consciously.

Then the Bible leans in closer to tell us that love is patient, kind; it does not boast; it keeps no record of wrong and so on. Take a walk through 1 Corinthians 13 to get the details.

And this, this right here, is love.

It is not impatience dressed up in expensive gifts.

It is not rudeness softened by constant postings.

It reaches the very core of a person’s character, the heart.

Love flows from the heart. With pure intentions. Not tied to give-and-take transactions, but offered unconditionally.

Look at Christ’s unconditional love at the cross. He did it knowing not everyone would reciprocate. And even if no one ever did, He still would have.

That is the kind of love God calls us to.

It is not the shenanigans of “If he calls me, then I’ll call back,” or “I will only love to the extent that I am loved.” Love is not two-way traffic negotiated by ego. It’s not about I will love you 50% plus VAT. It is a decision, and when you make it, you make it wholeheartedly.

Love is not tied to material reasons or emotional bargaining. It is the purest way we reflect Christ and act as His ambassadors.

And no, this does not mean losing ourselves in the process. In fact, love begins with us. We must first love ourselves before we can truly love others. The Bible further emphasizes that we love our neighbors as we love ourselves, which means the starting point is within.

So instead of picking up half backed theories from self-proclaimed love scientists, why not walk the journey of truth as given to us in the Bible? Perhaps then we will finally learn

not only how to love, but how to be loved.